Hello Sonya,
My life has been about building/developing my career and moving up the corporate ladder. Now, I'm a new mom and having great difficulty striking a balance. It makes me feel so guilty can you help me even the scales?
Signed: Molly- Hawaii
Hello Molly, Thank you for a great question! I know exactly how you feel trying to strike that happy medium between the two, and just feeling like you're coming up just a hair short on both sides of the table. Molly, so many women are facing this exact same issue everyday, so please don't feel as if you're alone in the great balance game. To balance work and family, means to give yourself equally to both areas of your life but, the biggest trick is not neglecting one over the other and, trust me this is much easier said then done.
Here are a few areas that you'll need to establish:
1. Establish your priorities: Many feel both work and family are extremely important, you have to decide what takes more precedence when both take up time and energy. The trick here is to determine at the time which is more pressing. Example: Your child is very sick and you need to go to work-Should you stay home or go to work? You should stay home and take care of your child because, this is the more pressing factor and needs your full-attention. The job should never take lead over the well-being of your family no matter how important your job or career. Nothing is more important then the safety and health of your family.
2. Create your families goals and establish deadlines: Many times at work you set goals establish deadlines but, in your day to day family life you tend to just go on auto-pilot or fly by the seat of your pants; and then you find yourself and your family not accomplishing too much of anything. YOU MUST establish real goals for your family because, things move very quickly and before you know it; things you planned or promised have passed and nothing, still gets done or promises you made never take place. When you establish real goals and deadlines you'll see how smooth things will start to go within your family. Set deadlines so each person knows exactly what is expected, who is going to be doing what and at what time. You also may need to allow a little more flexibility then what you would at work, due to age of children, your mate's schedule and other factors that are in your life. Don't be afraid to make concessions and rework plans.
3. Set-up and revise your schedule/calendar: This will greatly benefit your family, because many times your career my consume a lot of your time and energy. You'll need to make up things due to the pressing matters at work. Make sure that these moments of imbalance are compensated accordingly, so that you regain your family and career balance as soon as possible. If you have to take time away from the family because of deadlines, priorities that can not be revised remember to readjust the families established goals and deadline to help release the stress you're under.
Molly, no matter what you must have "time management" to be able to have the best of both worlds. Don't be too hard on yourself if you come up short on both sides of the table. You'll also need to schedule that YOU time so you can rejuvenate yourself and be of benefit to your family, job and most importantly YOURSELF!! Try keeping a journal to help you keep track of the accomplishments/goals and strides that you're making. I'm wishing you much success in striking a happy balance in your career and family.
I look forward to hearing your feedback and if you have questions that you'd like me to address, please feel free to email me at [email protected]
XOXOXO!!
Sonya LaRae- Certified Lifestyle Coach
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My life has been about building/developing my career and moving up the corporate ladder. Now, I'm a new mom and having great difficulty striking a balance. It makes me feel so guilty can you help me even the scales?
Signed: Molly- Hawaii
Hello Molly, Thank you for a great question! I know exactly how you feel trying to strike that happy medium between the two, and just feeling like you're coming up just a hair short on both sides of the table. Molly, so many women are facing this exact same issue everyday, so please don't feel as if you're alone in the great balance game. To balance work and family, means to give yourself equally to both areas of your life but, the biggest trick is not neglecting one over the other and, trust me this is much easier said then done.
Here are a few areas that you'll need to establish:
1. Establish your priorities: Many feel both work and family are extremely important, you have to decide what takes more precedence when both take up time and energy. The trick here is to determine at the time which is more pressing. Example: Your child is very sick and you need to go to work-Should you stay home or go to work? You should stay home and take care of your child because, this is the more pressing factor and needs your full-attention. The job should never take lead over the well-being of your family no matter how important your job or career. Nothing is more important then the safety and health of your family.
2. Create your families goals and establish deadlines: Many times at work you set goals establish deadlines but, in your day to day family life you tend to just go on auto-pilot or fly by the seat of your pants; and then you find yourself and your family not accomplishing too much of anything. YOU MUST establish real goals for your family because, things move very quickly and before you know it; things you planned or promised have passed and nothing, still gets done or promises you made never take place. When you establish real goals and deadlines you'll see how smooth things will start to go within your family. Set deadlines so each person knows exactly what is expected, who is going to be doing what and at what time. You also may need to allow a little more flexibility then what you would at work, due to age of children, your mate's schedule and other factors that are in your life. Don't be afraid to make concessions and rework plans.
3. Set-up and revise your schedule/calendar: This will greatly benefit your family, because many times your career my consume a lot of your time and energy. You'll need to make up things due to the pressing matters at work. Make sure that these moments of imbalance are compensated accordingly, so that you regain your family and career balance as soon as possible. If you have to take time away from the family because of deadlines, priorities that can not be revised remember to readjust the families established goals and deadline to help release the stress you're under.
Molly, no matter what you must have "time management" to be able to have the best of both worlds. Don't be too hard on yourself if you come up short on both sides of the table. You'll also need to schedule that YOU time so you can rejuvenate yourself and be of benefit to your family, job and most importantly YOURSELF!! Try keeping a journal to help you keep track of the accomplishments/goals and strides that you're making. I'm wishing you much success in striking a happy balance in your career and family.
I look forward to hearing your feedback and if you have questions that you'd like me to address, please feel free to email me at [email protected]
XOXOXO!!
Sonya LaRae- Certified Lifestyle Coach
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