Hello Sonya,
I seem to be sad each and every Valentine holiday because, I'm either just braking up from a relationship or I'm single yet again for another romantic holiday. Sonya, I'm just not sure what I can do to help myself feel better and what I need to do to keep from feeling so sorry for myself. Signed: Lonely Heart, Bridgewater, NJ
Hello Lonely Heart, Thank you so much for this question. I know there are so many that share your exact sentiments. The one thing that I've noticed in my career and working with individuals, is that most feel that Valentines Day seems to be one of the hardest holiday's for someone to be single or just not have that special someone to spend time with. More people seem to get depressed at this time but, here are somethings you can do to help yourself move past this:
Love Remedy for Broken-Hearts:
1, Love Yourself: Prior to being in any kind of relationship, you must love yourself and feel your own self-worth. No man nor woman is more important than you having love for you. Meaning you have to be satisfied within your own-self, know what you want from a relationship, what you will not except and how you want to be loved. Once you have those factors down you have one more VERY important fact *You need to know that your value doesn't come from the person that you are in a relationship with.
2. Date You: Fine so you don't have that special someone to shower you with gifts, and all the other little things that you think you need at this time. Plan a fabulous SPA day for yourself or send yourself a special little gift just for being fabulous and accomplishing whatever little thing you've done within this few months. Being able to enjoy Y.O.U. is very important and dating you won't cause you any kind of heartache.
3. Girl Power: Trust me there are a few of your girlfriends that are going through the exact same thing. Why not support each other and have a girlfriend lunch or dinner date? Get dressed to the 9's and then exchange gifts with each other, celebrate each other for being strong, educated, motivated wonderful women and don't let anything or anyone rain on this celebration.
4. Refine: You may need to see why you seem to be alone each Valentine holiday. Do you put too much pressure on your mate? Do you expect too much from the person you are with? Are you bringing negative energy into your relationship? You must refine whatever you are doing that is causing your boyfriend's to flee. Another thing is with guy's they tend to breakup with a woman just before Valentines day if, they aren't really into the relationship; this way they don't have to say the LOVE word or buy a gift. You have to make sure you're dating quality and that this person is on the same page as you and if not don't stick in there just for the holiday.
Lonely Heart, I cannot encourage you enough to not sit and feel sorry for yourself. This will on bring on more depression and cause you to feel even worse than what you really should. Celebrate you as a woman and don't be sorry for being strong and independent. More women should look at themselves as full-packages then someones plus one.
Wishing you continued happiness in EVERYTHING!!
XOXOXO!
Sonya LaRae-Certified Lifestyles Coach
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I seem to be sad each and every Valentine holiday because, I'm either just braking up from a relationship or I'm single yet again for another romantic holiday. Sonya, I'm just not sure what I can do to help myself feel better and what I need to do to keep from feeling so sorry for myself. Signed: Lonely Heart, Bridgewater, NJ
Hello Lonely Heart, Thank you so much for this question. I know there are so many that share your exact sentiments. The one thing that I've noticed in my career and working with individuals, is that most feel that Valentines Day seems to be one of the hardest holiday's for someone to be single or just not have that special someone to spend time with. More people seem to get depressed at this time but, here are somethings you can do to help yourself move past this:
Love Remedy for Broken-Hearts:
1, Love Yourself: Prior to being in any kind of relationship, you must love yourself and feel your own self-worth. No man nor woman is more important than you having love for you. Meaning you have to be satisfied within your own-self, know what you want from a relationship, what you will not except and how you want to be loved. Once you have those factors down you have one more VERY important fact *You need to know that your value doesn't come from the person that you are in a relationship with.
2. Date You: Fine so you don't have that special someone to shower you with gifts, and all the other little things that you think you need at this time. Plan a fabulous SPA day for yourself or send yourself a special little gift just for being fabulous and accomplishing whatever little thing you've done within this few months. Being able to enjoy Y.O.U. is very important and dating you won't cause you any kind of heartache.
3. Girl Power: Trust me there are a few of your girlfriends that are going through the exact same thing. Why not support each other and have a girlfriend lunch or dinner date? Get dressed to the 9's and then exchange gifts with each other, celebrate each other for being strong, educated, motivated wonderful women and don't let anything or anyone rain on this celebration.
4. Refine: You may need to see why you seem to be alone each Valentine holiday. Do you put too much pressure on your mate? Do you expect too much from the person you are with? Are you bringing negative energy into your relationship? You must refine whatever you are doing that is causing your boyfriend's to flee. Another thing is with guy's they tend to breakup with a woman just before Valentines day if, they aren't really into the relationship; this way they don't have to say the LOVE word or buy a gift. You have to make sure you're dating quality and that this person is on the same page as you and if not don't stick in there just for the holiday.
Lonely Heart, I cannot encourage you enough to not sit and feel sorry for yourself. This will on bring on more depression and cause you to feel even worse than what you really should. Celebrate you as a woman and don't be sorry for being strong and independent. More women should look at themselves as full-packages then someones plus one.
Wishing you continued happiness in EVERYTHING!!
XOXOXO!
Sonya LaRae-Certified Lifestyles Coach
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